Divorce is tough. I once heard someone say if men were made of blue water and women were made of red water, when married, both people become purple water. A divorce is the process of un-merging waters. How can help someone become restored to their original blue or red state? Here is the answer…overtime. The divorce, or dissolution process, takes time. However, there are three things that every man should keep in mind when seeking a divorce, regardless of what stage of the process they are in:
1. Capable women could and should work
Many moons ago, society believed that women were not capable of doing what men can do. That myth has gone by the wayside and as a divorce attorney with bread-winner clients, I like that. The average median household income in Gilbert, Arizona is $84,000. That means, the non-breadwinner is capable of making a lot of money. Thus, the other party should receive little to no spousal maintenance (alimony).
2. Children need their Father as much as they need their Mother
Perhaps this is a by-product of the age of gender equality, but it is true. Fathers, or their designee, are capable of playing with children, doing homework with children, and spending time with children just as well as Mother. There is Arizona law that states that parents should have as close to equal parenting time (visitation) as possible. And remember, divorce creates a “new normal;” so if Father was absent because he worked all of the time, the divorce process is the perfect time to work less and spend more time with the children. What happened in the marriage is less important than what happens in the dissolution process.
3. Hire an attorney who you trust
The divorce process is a lengthy one, on average it lasts between 4 and 18 months. You need someone who will advocate for your rights, while you focus on loving and providing for your children.
Unmerging waters is tough. Hire an advocate who will advise you and fight for you and your children at every step of the process. Remember, “Choices change lives. Choose wisely.” ~Kina Harding.
Kina Harding enjoys advocating for people going through “love’s tragic side effects” – divorce, custody, child support, and more. Call us at 480.442.4142 or visit our website www.HardingFirm.com to get information and schedule your free consultation today.
